Reference Links for:
Post-Traumatic Masculinity: BetweenToxic Virility and Daring Vulnerability
CIR: Underserved Populations: Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse
Ask-the-Expert Session
July 24 2018
Bill Burmester, M.A., MFT, Berkeley, Ca.
Masculinity:
(1) Black and Blue Boys, Broken Men: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=by_2k8H10ws June 2012
(2) FoxNewsInsider: Men in America: Something ominous is happening to men in America
(3) Joe Ehnman TEDxBaltimore 2013:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jVI1Xutc_Ws
(4) Jennifer Seibel Newsom: The Mask you Live In: (trailer) https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=5&v=cdo13iPGTMU
(5) Brene´Brown:
•Daring Greatly
https://www.amazon.com/Daring-Greatly-Courage-Vulnerable-Transforms/dp/1592408419
•Men & Vulnerability
https://www.redbookmag.com/love-sex/mens-perspective/interviews/a14409/brene-brown-shame-vulnerability/
•Brene Brown: on gendered shame: “for men vulnerability is weakness”
(6) Development of Boys
•Niobe Way: Deep Secrets:
https://www.amazon.com/Deep-Secrets-Friendships-Crisis-Connection/dp/0674072421/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1531543322&sr=8-1&keywords=niobe+way+deep+secrets
•The Crisis of Connection for Adolescent Boys:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I0eTfikmq9k
•Judy Chu: When Boys become Boys: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vHHAj5GC6CE
(7) Post-traumatic Growth (PTG)
•https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Posttraumatic_growth
•Tedesci:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VcymghZcxBs
•ReSolve (movie trailer): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_neEZnWRhcw
(8) Terry Crews:
•The Daily Show: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o7f1HVFpRPI
•Congressional testimony: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UUvyrBP2w-g&feature=youtu.be
Military Trauma
(9) Clay Hunt 60 Minutes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=poxKILRDvCA
•Clay Hunt Act: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9fT2sTlfiq0&t=118s
(10) Wilfred Bion:
•http://www.traumatheory.com/bions-trauma-and-trauma-theory/
•http://www.traumatheory.com/psychoanalysis-trauma-bion/
Keyon Dooling: ex- NBA player for the Celtics
•https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JX9tEek2n6o
•https://celticswire.usatoday.com/2018/05/01/keyon-dooling-sexual-assault-mental-health-celtics/
(11) Sexual Abuse/Assault/Rape/Trauma Stories
Jennifer Paog: Men and Me Too: Men Admitting Sexual Abuse and Harassment Is Healing
https://www.recoveryranch.com/sexual-harassment/men-men-admitting-sexual-abuse-harassment-healing/
Junot Diaz: “The Legacy of Childhhood Trauma” in The New Yorker 4-24-18
https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2018/04/16/the-silence-the-legacy-of-childhood-trauma
“Junot Díaz case may be a #MeToo turning point” in The Globe 6-30-18
Lewis Howes: The Masks of Masculinity 2017 https://www.amazon.com/Mask-Masculinity-Embrace-Vulnerability-Relationships/dp/1623368626/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1530747001&sr=8-1&keywords=Lewis+Howes
Landon Wilcock: (male rape victim Queen’s U): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BWWPZlaq35U
Anthony Edwards
https://www.playboy.com/read/the-fight-to-erase-the-silencing-of-male-victims-in-america
Brendan Fraser:
https://abcnews.go.com/GMA/Culture/brendan-fraser-metoo-story/story?id=53289449
(12) Chester Bennington / LinkIn Park:
•‘One More Light’ tribute to Chris Cornell: : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t781gnNcTs4
•LinkinPark tribute concert to Chester https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9VoLHdADma8&t=402s
Chester’s late interviews: (parts) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CCpW5g87vHg
•(on depression) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o-qc-s3OjKM&t=276s
•(autopsy) https://www.rollingstone.com/music/music-news/chester-benningtons-autopsy-report-released-128514/
Mike Shinoda:
•(living on) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S3m1OJc1KhY
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• (creative grief) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bio77g_dvlI
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Talinda Bennington & 320ChangeDirection
•https://www.changedirection.org/320-changes-direction/
•(suicide town hall) https://www.msn.com/en-us/sports/soccer/linkin-park-singers-wife-reflects-on-day-he-died/vp-AAz34RD
•https://www.cnn.com/videos/health/2018/06/23/talinda-bennington-suicide-town-hall-anderson-cooper.cnn (clip w/ ad)
•https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yCdo9MA3nOY
Men & Me Too
•https://www.playboy.com/read/how-do-male-survivors-fit-into-metoo
Men’s Movement 2.0
•MANiphesto:https://www.maniphesto.com/manifest
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=91RjgzIBfAc&feature=youtu.be
•Rebel Wisdom: David Fuller: Men & Masculinity
https://mail.google.com/mail/u/0/#search/maniphesto+father/16402d6d803213e7?projector=1
•Manifesto of the New Fatherhood:
https://www.esquire.com/lifestyle/news/a28987/manifesto-of-the-new-fatherhood-0614/
Understanding and Working with Male Sexual Abuse
books by and edited by Richard Gartner:
Understanding the Sexual Betrayal of Boys and Men:
The Trauma of Sexual Abuse
Healing Sexually Betrayed Men and Boys:
Treatment for Sexual Abuse, Assault, and Trauma
Trauma and Countertrauma, Resilience and Counterresilience:
Insights from Psychoanalysts and Trauma Experts
Beyond Betrayal:
Taking Charge of Your Life after Boyhood Sexual Abuse
Betrayed as Boys:
Psychodynamic Treatment of Sexually Abused Men
Memories of Sexual Betrayal:
Truth, Fantasy, Repression, and Dissociation