Reference Links for:

Post-Traumatic Masculinity:   BetweenToxic Virility and Daring Vulnerability


CIR: Underserved Populations:  Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse

Ask-the-Expert Session

July 24 2018

Bill Burmester, M.A., MFT,  Berkeley, Ca.


Masculinity:

(1) Black and Blue Boys, Broken Men: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=by_2k8H10ws June 2012

(2) FoxNewsInsider:  Men in America:  Something ominous is happening to men in America

http://insider.foxnews.com/2018/03/07/tucker-carlson-men-america-toxic-masculinity-blame-male-failures

(3)  Joe Ehnman  TEDxBaltimore 2013: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jVI1Xutc_Ws

(4)  Jennifer Seibel Newsom:  The Mask you Live In:   (trailer)  https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=5&v=cdo13iPGTMU


(5)  Brene´Brown:

Daring Greatly
https://www.amazon.com/Daring-Greatly-Courage-Vulnerable-Transforms/dp/1592408419

Men & Vulnerability
https://www.redbookmag.com/love-sex/mens-perspective/interviews/a14409/brene-brown-shame-vulnerability/

Brene Brown: on gendered shame:  “for men vulnerability is weakness”

https://www.theatlantic.com/sexes/archive/2013/04/messages-of-shame-are-organized-around-gender/275322/


(6)  Development of Boys

Niobe Way: Deep Secrets:
https://www.amazon.com/Deep-Secrets-Friendships-Crisis-Connection/dp/0674072421/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1531543322&sr=8-1&keywords=niobe+way+deep+secrets

The Crisis of Connection for Adolescent Boys:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I0eTfikmq9k

Judy Chu:  When Boys become Boys:   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vHHAj5GC6CE


(7)  Post-traumatic Growth (PTG)

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Posttraumatic_growth

https://www.amazon.com/What-Doesnt-Kill-PsychologyPosttraumatic/dp/0465032338/ref=sr_1_6?ie=UTF8&qid=1530902080&sr=8-6&keywords=post-traumatic+growth

Tedesci:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VcymghZcxBs

ReSolve (movie trailer):  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_neEZnWRhcw


(8) Terry Crews:

The Daily Show:   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o7f1HVFpRPI

Congressional testimony: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UUvyrBP2w-g&feature=youtu.be


Military Trauma 

(9)  Clay Hunt  60 Minutes:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=poxKILRDvCA

Clay Hunt Act:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9fT2sTlfiq0&t=118s

(10)  Wilfred Bion:

http://www.traumatheory.com/bions-trauma-and-trauma-theory/

http://www.traumatheory.com/psychoanalysis-trauma-bion/


Keyon Dooling:  ex- NBA player for the Celtics

https://www.amazon.com/Whats-Driving-Overcame-Abuse-Learned/dp/0976752891/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1530864289&sr=8-1&keywords=Keyon+Dooling++What%27s+Driving+You%3F

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JX9tEek2n6o

https://celticswire.usatoday.com/2018/05/01/keyon-dooling-sexual-assault-mental-health-celtics/


(11)   Sexual Abuse/Assault/Rape/Trauma Stories

Jennifer Paog:  Men and Me Too: Men Admitting Sexual Abuse and Harassment Is Healing

https://www.recoveryranch.com/sexual-harassment/men-men-admitting-sexual-abuse-harassment-healing/


Junot Diaz:   “The Legacy of Childhhood Trauma”  in The New Yorker  4-24-18

https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2018/04/16/the-silence-the-legacy-of-childhood-trauma

“Junot Díaz case may be a #MeToo turning point”  in The Globe 6-30-18

https://www.bostonglobe.com/metro/2018/06/30/junot-diaz-case-may-metoo-turning-point/3TMFseenE4Go1eVsqbFSxM/story.html



Lewis Howes: The Masks of Masculinity 2017  https://www.amazon.com/Mask-Masculinity-Embrace-Vulnerability-Relationships/dp/1623368626/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1530747001&sr=8-1&keywords=Lewis+Howes


Landon Wilcock: (male rape victim Queen’s U):  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BWWPZlaq35U


Anthony Edwards

https://www.playboy.com/read/the-fight-to-erase-the-silencing-of-male-victims-in-america 


Brendan Fraser: 
https://abcnews.go.com/GMA/Culture/brendan-fraser-metoo-story/story?id=53289449



(12) Chester Bennington / LinkIn Park:

‘One More Light’ tribute to Chris Cornell: :    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t781gnNcTs4

LinkinPark tribute concert to Chester  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9VoLHdADma8&t=402s

Chester’s late interviews: (parts)   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CCpW5g87vHg

(on depression)  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o-qc-s3OjKM&t=276s

(autopsy)  https://www.rollingstone.com/music/music-news/chester-benningtons-autopsy-report-released-128514/

Mike Shinoda:

(living on) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S3m1OJc1KhY

  1.     (creative grief)  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bio77g_dvlI

  2.    


Talinda Bennington & 320ChangeDirection

https://www.changedirection.org/320-changes-direction/

(suicide town hall)  https://www.msn.com/en-us/sports/soccer/linkin-park-singers-wife-reflects-on-day-he-died/vp-AAz34RD

https://www.cnn.com/videos/health/2018/06/23/talinda-bennington-suicide-town-hall-anderson-cooper.cnn   (clip w/ ad)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yCdo9MA3nOY


Men & Me Too

https://www.playboy.com/read/how-do-male-survivors-fit-into-metoo


Men’s Movement 2.0

MANiphesto:https://www.maniphesto.com/manifest
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=91RjgzIBfAc&feature=youtu.be

Rebel Wisdom:  David Fuller:  Men & Masculinity
https://mail.google.com/mail/u/0/#search/maniphesto+father/16402d6d803213e7?projector=1

Manifesto of the New Fatherhood:

https://www.esquire.com/lifestyle/news/a28987/manifesto-of-the-new-fatherhood-0614/



Understanding and Working with Male Sexual Abuse


books by and edited by  Richard Gartner:


Understanding the Sexual Betrayal of Boys and Men:

     The Trauma of Sexual Abuse 

Healing Sexually Betrayed Men and Boys:

     Treatment for Sexual Abuse, Assault, and Trauma


Trauma and Countertrauma, Resilience and Counterresilience:

     Insights from Psychoanalysts and Trauma Experts 


Beyond Betrayal: 

     Taking Charge of Your Life after Boyhood Sexual Abuse


Betrayed as Boys:

     Psychodynamic Treatment of Sexually Abused Men


Memories of Sexual Betrayal:

     Truth, Fantasy, Repression, and Dissociation


CIR-ATE  Q&A session  7-24-18